i learned something lately about someone i have known for many years and care very much about. someone prominent in my life’s history, who shaped me in profound ways. someone without whom i would have unfolded as an entirely different person.
it was disrupting news, but not necessarily bad news. and i have to confess, it forced me to reevaluate my ideas, my expectations, even in some ways my image of this person. it was news that violated my assumptions.
and i was a bit surprised at my own, well, surprise, since this situation itself is not entirely surprising. i’m curious to hear more from this old friend, to learn about what’s going on — but also to see if i am alone in my unwarranted astonishment.
it reminds me as well how flexible our lives are, the million different places we could end up if we followed different arrows. this → that. but there are a million → and they all lead in different places.
the devil’s in the details, and in the →s.